So I told you how I had written Mya's birth mother on FB? Well she wrote me back and of course I couldn't just leave it at that. (Jonathan could! He wishes there was still zero contact, but I am not threatened at all. She isn't that interested in us) I, on the other hand, am intrigued by it all and always have other questions. She wanted to see pictures of Mya so I just added her as a friend on FB. Now she can access all our pictures, but I feel totally fine by that.
I never heard anything after that, but I was still curious about Mya's father's race and the possibility of her being Asian and therefore having the lactose problems. But sometimes lactose problems are hereditary. So I asked about she and the other kids. Her response:
"she is not Asian..my kids were on soy i gave them prosobee soy, but they drank milk well whole milk at one."
I never heard anything after that, but I was still curious about Mya's father's race and the possibility of her being Asian and therefore having the lactose problems. But sometimes lactose problems are hereditary. So I asked about she and the other kids. Her response:
"she is not Asian..my kids were on soy i gave them prosobee soy, but they drank milk well whole milk at one."
So there you have it! Mya is NOT Asian! I have seen where people get the Asian idea, but I have never thought she was Asian. I think she looks native American like a lil' eskimo or possibly Hispanic. She & Jose actually look a lot alike. Look at Jose's eyes....
Still not saying anything about all Mya's pictures, I was curious what she thought of her. So I wrote her again asking what she thought.
"she is a precious little girl. How is she doin right now..."
So, yeah. I'm not worried. You can tell by her very basic answers that she isn't going to be too invasive in our lives. But I like having the contact. I don't know why. But I do. Jonathan doesn't but he doesn't mind that I write her, he just thinks its dumb. LOL I did notice that her "location" recently changed to Las Vegas again. Her dad had said she is always between here & Modesto, Ca. That's really weird for me to think that she is here in town. :(
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As a mother who has adopted from foster care I have to agree with your husband on this one. I understand the wanting to know all the information you can. We have very little info on our daughters birth parents and I hate that, but you are really opening up a can of worms. You have a closed adoption for a reason, it needs to stay that way. You are not protecting your child by having contact with her birthmother, and allowing her into your Facebook life, do you know how much information you can get off of Facebook? Do yourself and your family a favor, defriend her and leave that alone, you are the mommy now, not her.
I disagree. The adoption isn't necessarily "closed". I would have chosen partial open. I want pics of the mother and I would one day like to meet her. I hope to meet the siblings and I want to meet the grandpa. I want Mya to know and have relationships with her siblings.
So i guess you and I are different that way. We want different things. I have a wonderful relationship with many past birth mothers. I have most of them as friends on FB and stay in close contact even after children go home. I am keeping my distance from the mom, but I want info from her 1st. I am not having Mya meet her by any means. Once Mya is of age, if her mother is still alive and she wants to meet her, I will arrange it. That's just me.
the more I think about the more your anonymous comment (annoying comment) the more it peevs me! Oh well, your opinion, your opinion! :(
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