Cherise left us Wednesday morning, and 1st thing Thursday morning (woke me up) the phone rang from Child Haven. Only, they were looking for respite. They wanted us to take 2 kids for the weekend. We were headed to Hurricane, UT, so I declined.
Friday morning, they called with a placement. A four year old girl, that had been through some trauma. It was a high-profile case, meaning it may have been on the news OR just MUCH more drama than normal. She had a younger sibling pass away and had been in an alleged abusive FOSTER home. Not again! I hate hearing that. Where is the trust gonna come from for these kids?! I really wanted to take her, knowing she's probably never had a good home or been loved. True, we were going to stick to "babies" but she'd tugged on my heart strings. Unfortunately, not Jonathan's. So we had to say no. (He wasn't up for kids or really fostering at all this soon after Cherise broke our hearts)
Monday afternoon, while in Hurricane, they called again. This time for a sibling pair placement. 5 year old boy and 1 year old boy. While Noah would LOVE to have a brother or TWO, I just don't know how I feel about 2 boys. There is also some behavioral problems with the 5 year old, so we decided to turn it down. :( PLUS, Jonathan still says he's DONE fostering.
Monday night, Jonathan and I talk a little bit and he "somewhat" leads me to believe he is maybe, kind of, sorta open to still fostering. But just that. Strictly fostering, no love coming from him. He'll just look at them as $$ signs and that will be that. LOL Famous last words! He is NOT gonna get attached again and we'll just foster, with small chance of adopting even IF the opportunity arises. He's also said we're meeting in the middle and I'm going to have him a baby. :) HA! that's all I got to say! that, and yeah right!
Hey, at least he'll let me continue to foster.
Then last night! The real kicker, he agrees to finally take 2 at once (never before really been an option). We'd prefer a sibling pair, because that's easier. Only adjusting to our kids because they are with THEIR sibling and not another kid in our house. Easier on everyone, I think. (specially with "visits") But we're open to 2 different kids coming/going at different times.
Today they called & left a message while I was out, with a fun placement. A 2 year old girl. Oh so cute. I LOVE that age! I called back within the hour and they had already placed her! BUMMER!
My dream placement right now would be: a toddler boy, 2 or 3 years old and a brand new baby girl! WHY? Cause I LOVE me some little girls. AND Noah desperately needs a brother!
A toddler girl is adorable too, and if we got a baby boy. Then the kids would both be evenly spaced from a sibling if we adopted. I dunno. I just get much more excited about a little girl placement than I do about little boys. Baby or not. I just prefer girls. They said they don't get an infant, toddler pair very often but I'm on their list to call if they do.
Hopefully we'll get another call today or in the next few days.
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